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Pain without a person
I have a complex with early pregnancy assessment units (EPAU) because in my experience, I’ve walked into the triage room full of hope,...
Vanessa Haye
Sep 15, 20235 min read


Remember, Remember the 5th of November...
This is a sensitive post, and it contains a triggerwarning. Hello! It’s been a while since I updated my blog. I took some time away to be...
Vanessa Haye
Nov 10, 20214 min read


She deserves the flowers
Growing up I loved Mother’s Day. I was yet to have a revelation of what It took to receive the ‘badge of honour’, and why every year in...
Vanessa Haye
May 10, 20214 min read


P.S. it's PCOS
8.00pm today.
Vanessa Haye
Dec 9, 20206 min read


Death is also a new beginning...
TRIGGER CONTENT - At most times I place responsibility on a reader /follower of my content to use their own discretion at what they...
Vanessa Haye
Sep 15, 20205 min read


You can't control what you can't control...
An impromptu post for you, but necessary ... I've realised that dealing with PTSD means your thoughts run wild, and every thought leads...
Vanessa Haye
Jul 9, 20203 min read


PTSD...
It's been a while since my last post, and for those of you who have read it, you will know that it is the second part of my story about...
Vanessa Haye
Jun 28, 20205 min read


Beautiful Chaos Pt 2
"On a scale from 1 to 10, how bad is the pain ?" This is a question that many or all of you reading this may have heard before at some...
Vanessa Haye
Apr 26, 20205 min read


Beautiful Chaos Pt 1
Later this month our family was expecting our beautiful baby to arrive. When I learnt about our baby's due date about a week shy of our...
Vanessa Haye
Apr 5, 20204 min read


Secondary Infertility
So infertility in its simplest definition refers to when a couple can't get pregnant (conceive) despite having regular unprotected sex....
Vanessa Haye
Feb 3, 20204 min read


Count your Blessings
It's that time of the year again. I'm not sure about you, but for me the year has flown by. Looking back to the beginning off 2019 I...
Vanessa Haye
Dec 9, 20196 min read


Knowledge is expensive but Ignorance will cost you...
Let’s face it… I’m far from being a mechanic but when I think of the journey I have had through my fertility challenges It has been a...
Vanessa Haye
Oct 13, 20195 min read


The Journey...
So let’s recap! My previous post was entitled ‘the final hurdle’, and in all honesty during the time I spent writing it , I started...
Vanessa Haye
Aug 23, 20194 min read


The Final Hurdle
The one question I’ve never had a definitive answer to is “ How painful is labour?” “ Are the contractions really painful?” “ What kind...
Vanessa Haye
Jul 28, 20196 min read


The Forgotten Voice
Two years ago today it was the end of my ‘two week wait’ this term is mostly commonly used among those going through fertility treatments...
Vanessa Haye
Jun 17, 20194 min read


The Broken Egg
“I HATE MY BODY !” I screamed . This was all being said in a quiet voice with loud thoughts in my head . Negative after negative test...
Vanessa Haye
May 28, 20194 min read


Hope Renewed
So in my first part of the ‘three part special edition' post I spoke about my second cycle of IVF , which in fact was what you would call...
Vanessa Haye
Apr 19, 20194 min read


Breaking the silence
It’s funny how life can be. I’m sure at some point most of you who will read this will remember moments when you have said ‘when I have...
Vanessa Haye
Apr 19, 20193 min read


'To mother'
Hey You! Beautiful mother …It’s your day. Yes yours! Don’t stop reading just yet. I know you’re so used to the innocent biases within...
Vanessa Haye
Mar 31, 20194 min read


It's Amazing what can happen in a year...
I’m three days late ( not in regards to my menstrual cycle , because I’m back to the irregularities again), and I’ll save that for...
Vanessa Haye
Feb 27, 20194 min read
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